Episode 6: The Power of Time

Introduction: When Tough Moments Feel Endless

Have you ever felt such a horrible moment in life, that you thought it was impossible to overcome? In this episode of Message for My Kids, the host shares how time has the power to heal, even in the most difficult situations. Speaking directly to his children, he reflects on his own childhood mistakes that he made, and the emotions that came with those mistakes. But with time, he learned that even the worst moments eventually pass.

Learning from the Past

The episode takes listeners through personal stories of hardship and regret, highlighting the natural fear that painful emotions will never fade. As a parent, the host encourages his kids, and anyone going through a tough time, to trust the process of healing. The lesson is simple yet powerful: no matter how bad something feels today, time helps heal the wounds, offering clarity and peace in ways that aren’t seen at the time.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

• Time is a Natural Healer: Even the hardest experiences become easier to carry with time.

• Perspective Changes Everything: What feels overwhelming now won’t feel the same way in the future.

• Growth Comes from Experience: Life’s toughest lessons often shape us into stronger, wiser individuals.

A Message of Encouragement

For parents, this episode serves as a reminder that teaching kids about patience and emotional resilience is just as important as any other life lesson. For anyone facing their own challenges, this episode offers personal experiences that time truly does make a difference.

Tune in to this episode of Message for My Kids for an honest and uplifting perspective on life’s difficult moments, and how time helps us move forward.

Read The Transcript Below!

Hey, welcome back. And today I want to talk to you kids about time. Not time like I spoke before, where it was about spending your time wisely. Today, I want to talk about how time is used for a band-aid, how time is a band-aid.

And I know in life, you're gonna come across some gut rot feelings. And these gut rot feelings come from natural events, other people. They come from fate itself, driving a car, and you smack into a deer. The deer dents up the vehicle, and now you're worried because that's the only car, or it's just a whole bunch of hassle going through insurance.

So what I want you to take away from this one is, really, and this one's kind of—this one's kind of like one of those "easier said than done." And when time heals, and if you understand that, kind of understand how to deal with problems. Because knowing that time is going to heal stuff, somehow, some way, we end up forgetting about it, or it doesn't really matter.

I think usually, mostly, all the things that we worry about are just how feelings are, like how our feelings are. Trying to make sense of this, because it's kind of hard to describe. But mostly, everything that we worry about in life is probably objects or feelings. And what I mean by feelings, it's more of what the other person feeling. And so we feel that, so we feel bad.

Or it's more of objects. It's more of objects where we need a TV, but in reality, we don't need a TV. So if you look at it as an object point of view, just give it time. More than likely, you don't need the object. But what I'm saying is, if it's from an object point of view, it usually not very important that time clear out.

And I always thought to—I always thought to myself, like, if time—if time clear it, then it was never important.

When I was younger, I was living at your grandma and grandpa's house. And I remember I took some matches to school. And I don't know why I took them. I just took them because, something to do, I guess. I don't—I have no absolute memory of why I took the matches. I grabbed the sandwich bag, packed them up with matches, took them to school.

Now, I was not going to go and burn the school down. I know that. I know for sure I wasn't gonna do that. But I don't know why I took it. It was something like bragging, maybe bragging of some like, "Check what I got, not supposed to have." But it wasn't to burn the school down or anything like that. That was not my intentions.

I know better than that. Yeah, I know better, not to take the matches but yet to burn the school. I know it's contradicting, but I know not to burn the school down.

Anyway, so when I was younger, I took a bag full of matches. And I got caught. One of the students from the teacher came and looked into my stuff, asked me questions, took me to the office. Yes, I had the matches. I went home.

And my siblings were notified to talk to my parents. But I was afraid. I was scared. And I did not know anything. At that time, I did not know. I didn't know what was gonna happen. I didn't know the base rules of the house. Like, I was young. It was like my first time that I actually got in trouble. This was like in first grade. And I did not know how to get things to be normal again.

And I remember I was crying. And I was crying. And I was thinking, like, how can I get things back to normal? I just want this to end.

Grandpa came home. Grandma came home. And a week later, it was kind of like water under the bridge. But I still remembered. I was like, "Oh crap, still in trouble," but I still felt that little gut rot. And then I forgot about it. I don't know how long it took for me to forget about it.

And then what happened was, there was another incident where I got in trouble again. And I remember I was in deep trouble because I operated a vehicle without owner's consent.

I was sitting upstairs, and I was crouched in a ball. And I was worried because your grandma and grandpa were home already. And what happened was they were talking about the situation. And as they were talking about the situation, I knew I was in deep. I was in deep. Like, this is bad. This is bad. I did something off the charts.

So again, I found myself in another predicament. This time, I was in middle school, 7th or 8th grade. I was thinking, how can I get things back to normal? What do I need to do? What do I need to do to get things back to normal?

And I was sitting there, and I was trying to remember what helped the last time because I remember my gut having this big knot in the stomach. And I remember last time, it was the same feeling. It was like the same feeling. And I couldn't get rid of it. I couldn't get rid of it.

And I remember, time. I'm gonna have to go through this all over again. And the only cure for this? To go through all the punishment. And I have to let time do its job.

So, sure enough, after time had passed, everything was like water under the bridge. I'm sure your grandma and grandpa, they—they didn't forget. I'm sure every day, they probably thought, "Wonder what he's gonna do now? What he's gonna do now?"

But my point is, time. Time, it helps you forget. It is a band-aid. It is a band-aid. If you know how to harness time, it'll help you in life because time heals everything. I think. I don’t think there's anything in life that time can't heal? I don't know. And I don't want to test it. I don't want to tease fate. I don't want to tease it. Or something to happen and time never heals. I don't want to be in that mindset either.

So, find yourself in a rut. If you find yourself in trouble. If you don't know what to do—time. Time will heal it, like a band-aid. Promise. If it doesn't, we need to have another conversation—on another episode—on how to move forward.

I love you, kids. I hope the very, very best for you. I hope you won't need to lean on time. I hope that you can move in your journey of life without major problems.

And that's why—that's why Mom and Dad are here. Try to help you. So you don't have many problems. And I know when- when we're all dead, and you're still living, because that's how life goes, that's how life turns out. Circle of life. You may find yourself not knowing what to do. Or something's bothering you. Or something—you need something of healing.

Just remember, time is a band-aid. Time is a band-aid. It will get better. I promise, no matter what situation, let it come naturally. And try to make your best decisions.

Love you, kids.

This is another message for my kids.